goals…how to make ’em and break ’em

To answer just a couple of your questions from yesterday:

1. Yes, my deep freeze has an organization system….the dividers came with the freezer. Awesome.

2. Will I share recipes? If I remember to I will try to do that. We just make stuff we already like…a lot of the meat isn’t cooked before it is frozen…

After yesterday’s post I feel a little funny doing this post today. I thought about just saving it for next week, but oh well. Since some of you asked and Chris keeps prodding I thought I’d share a few of my weekly goals. I’m not too sure about sharing these here. I am quite sure many of you can accomplish all of my weekly goals in half a day, but I can’t. I know one day I’ll look back at these and laugh that I had to be so intentional about what seems like little things. One day my kids will be more self reliant and won’t require so much attention for basic needs. My goals may or may not be totally different then. Who knows. With several young kids in our house it is very easy for the days to just become a run on sentence of fixing food + cleaning messes + changing diapers + tending to hurt spots + nap time enforcing + picking up toys….and repeat 50 times before bedtime.

For me it is easy for the days to become a blur of daily grind repeating itself. I have a list of daily goals that I try to accomplish each day. I also have a list of weekly goals. My weekly goals aren’t anything impressive or big, but they are things that often get overlooked in the daily grind of keeping up with my kids. I have to be intentional about them or they don’t get done.

Each week I give myself one goal in the following areas: Home Organization, Project completion, Something for Someone else, Each Kid

Home Organization: Last week’s home organization goal was to clean out the coat closet. Hated doing it. Love that it is done. This week is getting shelves up in the kitchen for my craft stuff. Next week is clearing out storage boxes under my bed. Eventually I make my way around every little area in the home and then start back at the beginning.

Project completion: As a project addict I always have a couple projects going on. I make sure each week one big one is completed. Last week it was building the add-on to our front porch (I watched kids, my dad & Chris did the building). This week it is painting that add on. Next week it is finishing up my next Design Aglow project.

Something for Someone else: This is the most important weekly goal for me. I want to make sure each week I am doing something alongside my kids that is for someone else. Last week we wrote letters to the boy we sponsor through Compassion International. This week we wrote ‘thank you’ cards for several people. Next week we are going shopping for food to take to our church for Thanksgiving baskets given to those in need.

Sometimes goals go as planned. Sometimes they do not. Last week when we wrote letters to our ‘sponsored son’, Biggest Brother wanted to color a picture for him. He wrote “Bad guys stink. Good guys are the best.” He was so proud and I just couldn’t tell him that it probably was inappropriate to send. So I sent it…with a note to Compassion International telling them they could throw it away, but I had to tell my son I sent it!

Each Kid: I also write down one weekly goal for each kid that I know I want to make sure I do. This week for Big Brother it was work on his front flip on the trampoline. It is a big deal for him, so I want to be intentional with helping him on it because that shows him I value what is a big deal to him.ย  It is more worth my time investment than a lot of things.

Making goals is not a natural thing for me, but in recent years I have found I need it. I don’t really think too long term these days. I know the things I want instilled in my kids when they become teenagers. I want to make the investment in Today. For me to feel like I am living in Today and not just surviving it….I need goals to help me stay focused and to accomplish all that I want to in these years as a young family. It is what works for me. It keeps a level of sanity in my often distracted head.

I hesitated a lot before posting this. Among those of you that only really know me online I think there is a bit of a myth that I have it all together. I don’t. That is so very far from the truth. I’m a regular mom who loses her cool all too often. I feel overwhelmed by laundry. I want to tie my daughter to a chair at times so she stops emptying every drawer in the house. Every time I step on a Lego I want to say something I shouldn’t. I don’t have it all together and I hope sharing my weekly goalsย  doesn’t leave any of you thinking I do.

I would also love to hear ideas from you on how you manage to get done the things you want to get done….

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  • Holly - Oh my Goodness!! Are you saying you are actually human like the rest of us? Bless your heart, you are still an amazing woman/mom in my book and you are the best “you” that you can be. That’s enough.

  • Alissa - I think writing down what you want to acheive is important, as it shows you have the intention to get it done. I also reward myself with treats if I get everything crossed off!

  • Kimberly - Thanks for this post Ashley. Nobody has it all together. If they appear to then they are either kidding themselves or they are robots. Your posts help me look past my own chaos though and I appreciate that. I never dreamed kids would be so tough. It’s easy to throw up my hands sometimes and just let them rule the roost. Your posts help me get it together and remember I am in charge. Things like goal making and craft ideas seem simple but it’s a nice reminder.

  • Anna Marie - Thank you for this. It inspires me! I especially like the home organization and time with each kid goal. God bless you, Ashley!

  • amy - love the post…my house is a mess and i am so unorganized…i use to follow “fly lady” things were neater then i should start again…anyways one of her trick is setting a timer for 15 minutes. you can do anything for 15 minutes… set the time wash the dishes when the timer beeps stop or keep going if you want. take a break and do it again… helps break big overwhelming jobs like mountains of laundry into manageable small jobs…

  • Kristin - This is a great post. I get so much more done when I have my to-do list in front of me – otherwise my distractions get the best of me, too. I need to be more intentional with goal setting – I like the direction your goals flow. Very inspiring, thank you!

  • Sarah Whitworth - I appreciate your concern to be real!! But I also appreciate your sharing what works at your house. It is an encouragement. My children are teenagers, one a senior in high school, and will soon fly out of the nest and on to college. While I wish I had a regular goal like you (and maybe documented it so many years later we could share the memories), I, too, feel like I have been intentional in my parenting. And now it is paying off!! My children are not perfect–they seemingly still don’t have how to put their dishes in the dishwasher, but our days are fun and I love each stage they go through. They only get better and better. (Our daughter was one that needed tied in a chair as a toddler/preschooler and she is a fabulous middle schooler now.

  • Barbara - Dear Ashley, I’m from Brazil, and I just love your blog and the fact that you are not perfect, sometimes even with just one son thigs go out of control. Thank you very much just for you exist!
    Sorry the bad english, we speak portuguese in here ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Beth@Just{Heart}It - Ashley,
    Thanks for posting this. You know, one of the things that really draws people together is the knowledge (by our own admission) that we all have terribly human moments. While we may not all struggle with the same things (I am an organizational freak, for example, and have no trouble keeping my house organized and clean), we all struggle with SOMETHING (I totally get not being able to accomplish seemingly easy goals every week – all I want to do is finish a book I started with my boys, but between school and their play time, it’s taking forever). No one will begrudge you for being human. We all nod and go, “Yup.” On another note, I love that you try to do something for someone else each week. That is awesome! Sometime in the future I’d love if you would share more of those ideas with us.

  • amanda torres - This was wonderful and inspiring. We all have the ugly parts about us, but setting goals and focusing on what we aspire to be to our kids and others keeps us on the right track. It is very apparent that you truly desire to become the woman God created you to be. Thanks for being you!

  • Daisy - thank you for sharing this with us! It inspires me

  • Asha - I can’t share because I feel like I get nothing accomplished, ever. I have ‘alone’ time for two hours a day when my son is in 1st grade and my daughter is in preschool. I thought, ‘freedom’! I was so excited to have those two hours a day. It’s not enough and I can’t believe I’m saying it. I always feel rushed to get things done, I never relax and when I pick my daughter up, I feel completely distracted because all I can think about it what I wanted to finish while she was in school and if I attempt it, she’s right there, messing things up. Negative, I know but the truth. I can only patiently wait until she’s in Kindergarten next year.

  • Jen - Thank you for sharing Ashley! It can be so hard to get anything else done with small kids…I completely understand. If you don’t mind, I’m totally stealing your goal to do something for someone else. I try, but I need to be more intentional with this.

  • Lauren - I love this post! You used that word I love so much several times…intentional. Sometimes I get so overwhelemed at the big picture (the mountain of laundry, the sink overflowing with dishes, the shoes all over the entryway, the table covered in junk mail) that I don’t even know where to start. I love to hear how someone else tackles things in their own home. I’ll have to try the weekley goals. It sounds like a great way to breakdown the big tasks in your home. Thanks for sharing what works for you!

  • Sara W - Thank you for this post – it lets us know that you are normal like the rest of us. I love the idea of goals for each child – it seems like my school kid is barely home before we head to bed and I’ve hardly had any time with him. This will help that. I also LOVE your idea of doing things for other people. This summer I did mini service projects with my kids to help them think about service but this will help me carry that on into the rest of the year.

  • Mirys - Dear Ashley:

    Yesterday, when I was surfing on the net (just freaking out about my birthday today) I found your blog. And I didnt left you a message even thought I should have done that! So I came back here today to say: thank you!

    Youยดre such an inspiration! You have 4 kids, a husband, take your photos, do your house work, writes a blog and still have good humor!!! Thatยดs priceless!!!!

    I have 2 adorable kids (6 and 4), used to love pictures, have tons of house work to do, write a blog too and try to keep my good humor every single day since last January… when my 35 years old handsome husband died while he was rescuing some people from a crashed car. Now you can understand why I was freaking out yesterday… today is my first birthday as a widown and thatยดs not a good thing…

    But I was trully inspired by your pictures, your good humor is contagious and I felt so much better after I read almost all your posts!!! Yes… I kept you page open on the computer while I was working… bad girl, I know!

    And, today, as a birthday present, you posted about goals! Thatยดs it!!! Iยดm making some for myself and I just loved the idea of having weekly goals. Itยดs so much easier to achive them!!! Great idea!!!

    Next week I will stop by to see what do you have as an inspiration for me. Who knows… I might end up taking beautiful pictures again (or, at least, trying to!).

    Sorry for my english. I forget to tell you that Iยดm brazilian. English was just “my private language” with my husband. So… Iยดm 9 months without practicing…

    Love. Mirys

  • Melissa - Awesome post, love your message. I am inspired by this post to try to set weekly goals. Thank you!

  • gina - Way to keep it real, Ashley! Blogs have a way of highlighting all of our positives: the good stuff of life. And there’s nothing wrong with that. But I think women have a habit of comparing all of their “negatives” to all of the good stuff from others’ blogs. That results in a pretty skewed view of life and how it is for everybody. The purpose of “mom blogs” should be to inspire, but not for women to compare themselves and get depressed that they can’t do it all. I appreciate your honesty this morning, and for letting everyone know you’re human. You are a true picture of grace and humility.

  • Meredith - I love blog entries like this. I love hearing that you are human, too! So often after reading your blog and several others like yours I am amazed at how easy you make it look when often I am struggling to get it all done. It’s a good reality check to remind us that we only see the portion of your life and that there is so much more going on. Thank you for putting this out there for us.

  • tammy - You may want to admit you are just “normal” like the rest of us, but when my kids were your kids ages, (except I only had 3!) I was so fried I don’t think I even *thought* about making goals for years. It really did all just run together. Keep on keepin’ it real, but tell yourself you’re doing great too.

  • ellen - i am so glad you posted this! i have been meaning to come back and ask you to share about how you organize. i always love to hear about how other people order their lives. it is so easy, as you said, to slip into just going through the motions. i love that you focus on being intentional in several areas, especially in doing for others. thank you for being willing to share!

  • meg duerksen - oh man….you don’t have it all together?! what?
    i think that is great to hear.
    makes everyone feel normal.
    i like the home goal.
    i would like to work on that……when the pictures are done.
    i would like to start a lot of things when they are done.

  • Rachel - Wow, thank you so much for this. I only have one baby and yet I get overwhelmed and so frustrated when I can’t cross enough off of my to-do list. Thanks for reminding me to have goals, but to keep realistic expectations of myself.

  • shelley - thank you for sharing. I don’t have kids yet but I find your words, photos, insights and joy for life very encouraging. I had never thought of setting a goal of doing something for someone else every week. I love it. A. Lot. I will be incorporating this into my life.

  • Bekki4 - You know, I love reading your blog because you are living the life we have grown out of. It reminds me of the way things used to be when all four of my children were babies 5 and under. I miss those days, the chaos, the business, the fun! We still have fun now but it is at a different level with the baby now 4. The days follow a schedule, things get done, and while the level of noise had probally increased, there is a slower pace to my days. I love getting a glimpse of your world that many days so resembled mine.

  • Kelly - I appreciate you posting this! I’m the same way with my goals/schedule. I totally understand how things could just not get done with a house full of little kids. I have a notebook that is pretty much always with me that serves as an idea book/schedule/list keeper/prayer journal/etc. There are times we hit a rough spot & I get super overwhelmed and I have to write down an hour-by-hour schedule for our day to be intentional with my time. In fact, my kids are on track break for the next three weeks. (They go to year-round school) So I’m sure more pages of my notebook will be filled with more days like that in the near future ๐Ÿ™‚
    I love your idea for having a goal for each kid. My oldest boy is very list/chart/goal oriented and he often has his own list going.

  • kyla hailstone - Thank you Ashley I needed to hear that. Seriously made me cry. I always feel like Im doing something wrong because other moms have it all together. Its nice to know Im not alone. Ive heard that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. Well I can’t tell you how many times a day I pick up the same room, the same shoes, wash the same dishes, pick up the dirty socks. But in the end when I hear one (of three) laugh it makes it all worth it ;}

  • Shea - Great post! Thank you for sharing with us. I have a 2 year old and a 2 month old and I’m trying to figure out how to balance everything to give my kids the attention they deserve as well as my husband and our home. And I only have two kids! I like the way you work. You’ve inspired me to buck up and not be so hard on myself and set attainable goals and work towards enjoying a purposeful life each and every day. Thank you!

  • Danielle - Needed this! I just hope I can put some of this to good use!

  • Jamie - I love this idea. Thanks so much for sharing.

  • Lexie - Ashley Ann–I love your blog! I discovered it over the summer and have loved reading it! I am a big fan of the planner! I write down everything in my planner, on our family calendar, put it in my blackberry, and also on my calendar at work. That is a lot of places and probably overkill, but it gives me a sense of control and knowledge of everything that needs to take place! We don’t have any kids yet, but I can only imagine what my calendar/planner/schedule will look like when we do! When I had a summer job nannying for 3 kids, I would put each of their activities in a different color according to which child it pertained to…that was helpful!

  • Gevay - Thanks for the dose of reality and for sharing! Our willingness to be real is what helps each other- you know “iron sharpens iron”. The goal idea is great. I can keep up with the laundry and cleaning most of the time, but I rarely finish projects. Setting a weekly goal would help with that. Thanks for the inspiration!

  • katie - i think it’s funny that you hesitated to post it. did you want us all to continue to believe you are Superwoman? i’m overjoyed that you’re not. it means there is hope that i may somehow someday be able to accomplish some of the things that you have (and do). and it means that i would want to be your friend in real life because i wouldn’t feel like crap everytime i was around you (i can’t handle hanging out with people, especially Christians, who make me feel bad about myself). [sorry this is so long!] i’m not a goal-oriented person either, but after i had my 3rd kid, it hit me in the face one day that things aren’t going to just happen. intentional is definitely the best word to use. I LOVED THIS POST.

  • Erin Johnson - Most often I feela lot like you described at the end of your post and I’m thinking that I really need to start setting some of my own daily and weekly goals to make sure that the things that are important to us don’t go by the too busy way side! Thanks for the post!

  • Seamingly Sarah - Okay – so it’s totally not fair for me to add any ideas because I only have one kid right now and she spends 3 days with Gramma doing very intential preschool learning. But when my 2nd comes out we’re planning on me staying home with both kids. I’m super nervous to take on the fantastic job my mother in law has been doing with teaching my daughter and how I’ll emotionally handle not always accomplishing tasks. This will be a big lesson in letting things go and not beating myself up. I had never thought of all the intential things you put into your life and how you raise your kids. The intentional investment in them. And the intential teaching them how to give and be compassionate. Those never crossed my mind. I hope it’s something I can gain over time. Another way of thinking that becomes more ingrained in our lives as we go.

    Until then, the days I do stay home with my daughter I just work off of her need to be with me and help me to get laundry done and I cook extra food during Sesame Street and I clean the house during her nap. Sometimes I skip that when I have a need to sew instead. I do craft projects at night after she’s asleep. And I don’t have big projects to do around the house. If I do (like rearrange all the photos on the wall) they hang around the floor for weeks until my husband gets sick of it and I finish the project in an evening of frustration and tiredness. Not perfect, but it’s me.

  • Monique - Great post. I love goals and lists… it’s one of my sanity savers! I actually used the Christmas Organizer DIY to make a cute “To Do” book where I keep lists of house stuff, photography stuff and craft project to do lists and then compile it into my daily and weekly list. One of my daily goals is to spend 10 min twice a day with each of my kids doing whatever they want to do. It doesn’t sound like much but it gets my head there and usually turns out longer. I spend all day doing things with them but these times are to make me forget about what I enjoy or half heartedly playing cars and to really get in there and do exactly what they want to do because I value them and their ideas. Often my 3 year just wants to be chased and tickled so 10 minutes is long enough to make me sweaty!

  • Kathy T - Thanks for posting this – very inspirational. I need to rethink my goals of ‘getting through the week’. I’m missing out on the little things that i’m going to miss someday.

    I’m not sure what everyone else thinks, but i don’t know anyone who has it all together. IMO, life just doesn’t work that way. I read your blog because you inspire my creativity, take great photos, and are someone I can relate to. You seem very… Human. And Legos hurt!

    Have a great day!

  • sarah - I’m so glad that you posted this. Not necessarily because I thought your perfect, but I have wondered what plan you’ve made for yourself. I’ve found that now that I don’t work, but added 2 more kids to the mix, I have a hard time getting things done. For about 6 months now I’ve realized that organizing my time is just not a skill I’m blessed with. I’ve been seeking outside help for some advice and tips. While there are some great plans out there, I’ve found that mashing my life in their plans isn’t any more helpful. Pulling bits and pieces that work for other people and adapting it to mine is making things a bit less stressful.

    I really like that you add a goal per week or each child. Lately I feel while I’m running around finishing projects, working, cleaning up, and making goals, I’ve left out the 3 reasons why I want to finish my goals.

    Thanks for sharing, it’s nice to know that someone else is just trying to keep the pieces all together too.

  • RachelC - @ Mirys — You are so brave to share your story. Happy birthday! May your day be filled with wonderful memories of past years and beautiful dreams for the future. Your husband was a hero. What a wonderful legacy to pass on to your children. May you feel loved today.

  • Heather - i think you’re an amazing mom because you embrace real life and make it work for you and your family!! i appreciate that you shared this. it’s something that so many of us can relate to and inspires us to try something new. and i think the kinds of categories you use for creating your lists is genius. THAT inspires me.

    have a happy weekend!

  • ReAnnon - Love your goal categories. Doing something for someone else each week is definitely something I will implement in to our weekly goals. Simple yet effective. Seeing other mom’s have my same struggles gives me hope and is very encouraging.

  • Jacci in Ohio - Well, for what it’s worth, I benefitted from this post. I’m glad you posted it!

    I consider it encouragement in keeping my home Titus 2 style. Not that I feel like you’re trying to “teach”, it’s more like spurring one another on to love and good works. God cares about our households ๐Ÿ™‚ Giving our hubbies clean underwear for God’s glory is a good work! ๐Ÿ™‚ Investing in our kiddos for God’s glory is a good work! It all matters when it’s done in love for Christ.

    As to your feelings about posting it – I suppose you mean that you were wrestling with whether or not you were trying to glorify yourself or whether readers would glorify you. You can’t control the heart responses of others, but you can seek to glorify Christ in your own heart & blog, which I know you do ๐Ÿ™‚ Any gifts you have are from Him, right? So, I praise God for the heart He has given you for your home & family and I praise Him for the encouragement I’ve received from you to have the same! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Jacci in Ohio

  • Candice @ChiaSeedMe - I really love this post. Even though none of us really have it all together, things like this can help in the chaos of life. I’m bookmarking this page (and your last one) for when I have children. It’s easier now to accomplish everything I want to accomplish because it’s all I really have to do! But when I have kids I know I’ll need more of a system.

    Thanks for sharing your creativity! It’s so inspiring!

  • Kate @ Songs Kate Sang - Thank you for being honest. Thank you for showing us what works for you! You are so right about being intentional with time. I need that reminder EVERY MOMENT.

    Have a great weekend,

  • mary - this is your best post yet. i’m in the same boat as you – but with only two kids, and i feel everything that you’ve written. i actually sat down with all of my “feng shui” books two weeks ago and rearranged my entire house so that life would slow down! ๐Ÿ™‚ it hasn’t really, so i realize now that i’m the one scheduling and committing and doing and flailing and sometimes falling very, very short. i LOVE how you’re organizing your goals. and i feel you; i HESITATE GREATLY sharing some very personal things online when asked because i’m afraid of judgment. but. BUT! THANK YOU!!! i always always breathe easier to hear another mom and wife and lover of life say that it’s not effortless and it does take work and i don’t have it all together all of the time. makes me feel like i’m doing ok, and sometimes even great, but it also gives me fantastic ideas of how to spend more time on the things that are most important. good work girl! thank you again!

  • giozi - I know what is pick up toy all day ๐Ÿ™‚
    Today I’m really tired, we are sick, all of us, my chubby didn’t go to school since tuesday.
    Well I continue later…

  • Angeline - Thank you for such an honest post–I’m so glad you decided to go for it! I love the last two–doing something as a family for others and doing something with each family member. No wonder your kids always look so happy…they are learning some great things and getting lots of love from their mom. I hope when I have kids I can be just as intentional as you are about teaching, loving and encouraging them.

  • Ruth - Oh I so feel you on wanting to tie my 17 month old to a chair (and all the rest!) Thank you for sharing, this was a great post. I am a list & goal person too, but I tend to make far too many goals for myself each day and month, and then feel disappointed in myself for not being, well, superwoman.

  • Shannon{photos by shannon} - I love that you don’t have it all together. I am inspired by everything you do and I think that there is no way I could ever do it all with my 3 kids and my life, but you do so much more with 4 kids. The fact that you are not superwoman makes you even more inspiring. I am also a list maker with lots of goals. I love your goals, especially the each kid one. I really need to do something like that. Great post.

  • paige rodriguez - I know that I usually only comment on giveaways :), but I wanted to quickly say, you are SO good at this blogging thing and inspiring other moms as we all try to plug thru life with purpose! I love that you take the time to write posts like this, b/c they get us THINKING. You have really great ideas, and know so much more than you even realize!! Thanks for sharing it with us!

  • lifeologia - Love the post. You do seem like super woman – in fact I was surprised you weren’t one for Halloween ๐Ÿ˜‰
    I try to write things down and with bigger cleaning up/organizing wait until I’m ‘in the mood’ and just attack just one area in a room or one small room – if the mood continues than the whole house might get cleaned ๐Ÿ˜‰
    I will try and set more goals though for alone time and husband/wife time ๐Ÿ˜‰

  • Katie - I am so with you. We only have a teeny tiny little two bedroom apartment and some days when it’s trashed I think to myself, “If I can’t even keep our little apartment clean–probably the smallest place we’ll ever live–how will I ever keep a big nice house clean someday?” And then I feel overwhelmed and do absolutely nothing. Haha. Although a couple of weeks ago I made a weekly cleaning chart for my husband and me to use to keep track of all of the things that should get cleaned at least once a week, but usually only get done once every six months. Last Friday when I came home from something I found my husband mopping the bathroom floor. It was a miracle. NEVER in our entire marriage has he ever mopped the bathroom floor without me asking him a few times first. And this time I didn’t have to ask him at all! He just picked that chore and did it! It was a thrilling experience. Haha. Sometimes I think we (I) just need a little external motivation like a chore chart or the pressure of saying a goal out loud or writing it down on paper. Because I, like you, am not naturally driven to make specific goals. But it seems like they’re usually a good idea. Thanks so much for this post. It makes me feel better. ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Miranda - I love that you shared this post with us. I operate under a similar system but I think I should be more intentional about thinking of others and focusing on my daughter’s needs! I can easily spend my days maintaining the status quo so it is nice when I get something more productive done. I’m thankful for a life that lets me celebrate very tiny victories!

  • Jenny - I saw these today and immediately thought of you! Maybe they can help you out with Lego organization: http://www.aplaceforeverything.co.uk/shop/index.php?page=1576&ret=1035

  • giozi - Me again ๐Ÿ™‚

    … Well I have goals, my simples goals, but even this I can’t do that ๐Ÿ˜€
    I like to see your frame (Jackie’s picture) throw this I met you.

    I want to do questions today ๐Ÿ™‚
    – How many punches do you have? (stupid question he he he)

    – Do you children paint your walls (crayons, etc)

    Have a good weekend

  • Aja - I love this post! I think you’re so smart to write out or have your specific goals in mind.. and I love that you’re so intentional about the goals for your kids! Especially focusing on each one and doing something with them for others.. This is something I definitely want to do with my future children! Thanks for posting on this!

  • chesley - thank you for being real!! i often wonder how some moms get so much done, when my goal is literally to make it through alive! this is a wonderful idea to feel like i’m accomplishing SOMETHING every week!

  • jessica h - thanks so much for sharing! I know you were hesitant, but it REALLY helps to share good advice–that is what women need more than anything!!! This post was a good ‘reality check’ and makes you seem more “real” (ie, imperfectly wonderful).

    You could not have put it better: “For me to feel like I am living in Today and not just surviving itโ€ฆ.I need goals to help me stay focused and to accomplish all that I want to in these years as a young family”–it was a lightbulb moment for me!! b/c I have a gazillion ideas/thoughts/prayers/intentions/projects floating around in my head at any moment but NEED to be focused on the NOW moment, not just on the laundry and diapers and meals and discipline, but also on the little sweet nothings and cherished smiles in the “doing” of life together ๐Ÿ™‚

  • jaime scott - Thank you for sharing this post. I love your blog (read it every day!) and I relate to you so easily. I have three kiddos 4, 2, and 9mo. and reading your blog inspires and encourages me when I feel like I am drowning in poo and laundry. Sometimes(okay, always) I feel like I am running from one thing to the next and i worry that maybe what is most important is falling through the cracks. I think having weekly goals is a great way to make sure that doesn’t happen. My weekly goal for this week: start writing out weekly goals. ๐Ÿ™‚

  • gina - i am like you. i have 5 kids and sometimes the day gets lost in the daily grind of meals, laundry, messes, diapers, etc. I set goals and make lists and have learned to set smaller goals; instead of getting the whole house cleaned i am happy to have the whole house picked up and 1 bathroom cleaned. Planning meals at the beginning of the week helps too so i don’t just stare into the frig wondering what to make. I also run our home on a schedule as much as possible with meals, naps, outside time,craft time, and bedtime at the same time each day.Some days run like a charm and some days not so much. I try to keep it simple and do re-evaluate goals and readjust when needed.

  • ashlee - wow…i dont know what happened to my last comment?! here it is again:)
    its so funny because i feel like i should make huge goals but never really considered making smaller ones. i think it would help tremendously! i tend to wait until the last minute to try and get everything done instead of doing it a bit at a time. i get lost in the grind of having lots of kids as well, but no more. i WILL use that planner that was so cute i had to buy it and make myself daily and weekly goals! thank you for sharing this, Ashley!

  • Natalie - We just went through our 2nd move in 4 months (long story) but I found this long to do list I had written at the beginning of September a couple days ago, and my husband laughed at me as I gleefully crossed everything off the list- either I had a accomplished them, or time had taken care of the necessity (i.e. no need to organize a garage if we moved again to a place without one!) I have 2 kids under 2, and a 3rd one on the way, and I’m feeling very stuck in a rut. Today in particular I wanted to do something fun with the kiddos this morning and ended up waiting around for a Comcast tech to install new cable. blah blah blah- babies crying because they didn’t get to go to the park before a much needed nap time (but a firm promise from mom that as soon as they wake up we’ll be off!)

  • Amy - Thanks for allowing us a glimpse at some of the ordinary parts of your life. For me, these kinds of tips are most helpful – seeing what other moms are doing on a daily or weekly basis to stay organized and inspired. So helpful!

  • jennie - THANK YOU. Thank you for being REAL. I have such a hard time realizing that my favorite bloggers out there are legit. So I appreciate you not being some fairytale. You have inspired me. I hope to make goals like you do! I love your goal to do something for another person:] Thank you THANK you THANK YOU!

  • joy - so, i had this one goal for more than a year that kept intimidating me. finally, i began to tell other people that i WAS going to do it by a certain date (nov 1) – AND IT WORKED. a little bit of self imposed peer pressure and determination NOT to live as a liar. but mostly, i make lists.

  • Lacey McKay - Thank you for sharing this Ashley. The timing is great too because I’ve just recently been thinking “Nothing is getting done around here. Maybe I should make a daily goal…” Just this morning, I was thinking of making myself a chore chart, like the ones you make for little kids. I could hang it on the fridge and it could have a little wheel that says “Monday-kitchen, Tuesday-Bathrooms, Wednesday-laundry, etc” Or maybe I should just pencil in a time frame on the calendar each day for housework! I’m also like you in the fact that I LOVE a good project! But with two little ones running around, I rarely get to make anything. Again, if I was just a little more organized with my time, I’m sure I could fit in a project or two each week!

  • Chelsea - Honestly, I always find it inspiring to hear how other mothers/families manage life with young ones, and I second Mary’s comments from above. It often feels like a circus around our house, and it takes work to even keep that circus going every night. It helps to hear ideas that I haven’t thought of, so thank you very much for sharing what you like to do. I just may steal, (ahem) borrow, your “doing something for someone else” weekly goal. There’s never enough of that in this world.

    My “go to” way of getting things done is sticky notes. I HEART sticky notes. I have them in drawers all over our house. I leave reminders for myself, reminders for my husband, I write down things I can’t do right then but want to remember to do later, etc. That’s a BIG one, I always think of things I need to do, or meant to get done, when I am not in the position to do them (like sitting at the doctors office or in a business meeting) and I have to write them down or I just forget.

    I really enjoy reading your blog, thank you Ashley! Have a great weekend!

    – Chelsea in Missouri

  • Leanne - if I don’t make lists it doesn’t get done.

  • Callie - Thank you for sharing this!!! I also have four kids under the age of 6, so I can relate!!! My days are a blur, and I have no goals, so I really needed to hear and see how to accomplish it! I appreciate you sharing, and I’m a bit relieved that you don’t have it all together…you’re real! ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Pam - Thank you for sharing. It was an inspiration. I need to go write down some goals!

  • amanda - thanks so much for sharing this! i was just today thinking about you and how amazing it is that you are somehow able to get so many things accomplished while also being a great mom. i have a 3 month old son and i can’t even get the house vacuumed! you may not have it all together but you are still an inspiration!

  • Lori - I’m glad you decided to write and post this one. Really helpful ๐Ÿ™‚

  • tara pollard pakosta - I like that you are being real and honest!
    I am the worlds biggest procrastinator!
    I wanted to do a thing called: “drawer a day” where I clean
    out one bin, basket, drawer, closet shelf , something each
    day, but quicky abandoned that idea.
    I am pretty organized for the most part though since
    I don’t like clutter!
    love your post!

  • Jenna - What a great idea! I especially love the last two goals. Thank you so much for sharing! As a mom to two boys – ages 4 and 2, and a baby girl (born on Tuesday!) – I am learning to be more intentional. I too get lost in the daily grind and forget to do the things that I want to do with my kids – many of which are way more important than some of the things I “have” to do. Anyway…thanks again for sharing this – it was very encouraging to me!

  • susie whyte - i like that you have planned out goals. i’m not that organized. ๐Ÿ™‚ i get in these “moods” where i suddenly want to clean like i would when i was pregnant or all of a sudden need to paint something, so i get everything that needs to be primed out all at the same time and go at it. i need to keep more paint on hand, that’s for sure. i’ve noticed that i have become very ‘spur of the moment’ in the last year, while it’s annoying to some, it seems to work well for me and the kids. i think they like surprises. ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Heather - im glad you didnt hesitate to share.. it helps to know how other ppl do things and get things done. and even that sometimes they struggle day to day. it also helps to know im not the only one who tries not to say terrible things when i step on small toys lol… love your blog!!!

  • Cath - Reading this made me believe I could write some weekly goals for myself too! Being in college sometimes I’ve a huge problem: I can’t never say no to my friends that want to hang out, I rarely do something for only myself (this looks kinda selfish but sometimes I really need that). And I made a list of goals that I want to accomplish until my next goal and if I don’t do that, I’ll never accomplish any of them! Thank you for inspiring me =)

  • Alisa - This post is perfect. I am a single mumma of 3, my home is often chaos and I never seem to have the time to craft or finish projects or just connect with each child.. I love your system of goals and might have to try something similar.. do you display your goals for your family to be able to see the weekly goals?

  • Carolyn - Oh Ashley. your husband was right to prod you to write this! Thank you so much for sharing. Even though I don’t know you personally, I am encouraged by reading your blog posts because you keep things honest, humorous, and well…REAL! Looking after children at home can be very isolating…so I really appreciate an insight to the ‘behind the scenes’ of how you do things ๐Ÿ™‚ So many blogs out there create an impression of perfection…thank you for being different! It’s a wonderful gift you are passing on to other mothers reading about how and what you do…
    Anyway, thank you too for the photography tips you post. I have really noticed an improvement in my photography..yay! ๐Ÿ™‚

  • kristiina - Awesome post! I loved the general guidelines that any of us can pick up and apply to our own crazy lives–with changes that will make it work for us.

    You mentioned something in a post a while back about your mom agenda, or something like that and I scoured your site to see if you had linked to it. But that kind of thing is very personalized..I finally found something that works for me and I can use some of these techniques to help shape my to do list ๐Ÿ™‚

    The most important take-away, though: staying present and intentional.

    Thank you so much for all the effort you put into this space for us readers!!

  • Jodi - I think setting goals is really the key to getting things done. I love that your goals always include your little ones. I think seeing it in front of you helps give you guidance.

    Your amazing as always and your ambition is really what sets you apart. I too often wonder “how ashley does it all” but it doesn’t matter, it’s inspiring to all of us!

    I think being a mom is out of this world but I think taking time for Ashley to get her creative yayas out is also as important! Good for you and congrats on your contributor role at Design Sponge!

  • Sheila - I am a new mum, and love seeing what you and your family get up to… you make it look like so much fun! And you make it sound ok that things aren’t always perfect. I love the idea of weekly goals and I am SO glad you posted today’s blog. Like most of the other comments, I am motivated by your ‘intentional’ goals. Thank you.

  • Trio - I think this if the first time I have commented but I read your blog daily and I am always inspired. As a mom to three children three and under (twins and a busy toddler), I appreciate this post so much. I often wonder how I can move through the week with more purpose and accomplishment. I have an ever-growing to-do list and can never seem to get things done. I find myself resenting my children sometimes b/c I never have a moment to myself to get anything crossed off my to-do list. I feel horrible at the end of the day for missing the joy that each day brings with small children. Thank you for being so honest. Thank you for helping me figure out a way to feel a sense of accomplishment as well as an appreciation for each of my children.

  • emily - Those are really good goals. I am totally with you that if I am not intentional, my days will blur into each other. I like the categories you’ve set up and I think I should organize my life a little and do the same. Thanks for taking the time to share.

  • Lindsay - Wow…this is so interesting to me…this post, because lately I’ve become obsessed with reading blogs and although it is my new guilty pleasure, sometimes it leaves me feeling more overwhelmed about all the things I’m NOT doing. There is a disconnect that goes with blogging sometimes. We can make our world’s seem uniquely perfect, because who wants to take a picture of the arguments we are having with our spouse or describe the dustballs piling up on the bookshelves?
    I started a Blog just recently….as a means of sharing the crazzziness that is our life in Canada with my new 4 month old….but i can’t even get past the ‘design’ portion of setting up the blog. haha ! So instead of actually laughing it off…i stress … thinking, “how do they do it??? “. When do they find the time to blog, read blogs, take pictures, make graphics to spice up their pages, feed their kids, CLEAN THE HOUSE, and manage alllll the household duties…?! Omg!

    So thank-you..i feel better! haha
    no tips here… no tips at all. I’m so new to motherhood. I only have one kid and I feel like I’m drowning on most days.

    Thanks for admitting you are not perfect either!!!

    http://www.lindsaygeesings.com – none of the buttons work !!! haha

  • Jenny B. - I’m so glad you shared your goals! I love learning how other people stay organized and get it all done. I used to do the Flylady routines, but haven’t been keeping up with it at all lately. My goal right now is to start my day reading my devotional and spending some time in prayer. I’ve been feeling stretched thin lately, and I realized that I’m trying to get everything done all on my own. “But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” -Matthew 6:33 (ESV). ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Kelly - Thanks for sharing this with us, Ashley. It *is* really encouraging to know how other people do things in real life and just to get ideas and such. I was recently cleaning off my “stickies” on my mac and saw the one I made when my son was a newborn. I remember my goal at the time was to do one thing a day off that sticky and just to rotate through them. I had things on there like “wash hair”, “put on make-up”, “shower” as well as “write thank you notes (which still aren’t done actually), etc.

    Now I made myself some cute little cards with security envelope paper as backgrounds with my husband’s name, son’s name, my name, “other’s”, “bless our home”, “exercise”, “to do today”, & “tomorrow” (prepping for the next day) on them and now I want to add “laundry” and “declutter”. I just rotate through them. It makes me smile though that they’re on fun paper and that making them was a mini craft in and of itself. Kelly

  • lisa and tate - this is such a perfect answer to what has been in my thoughts lately. thank you for sharing. i am a single mom who has adopted a daughter from china. sometime i feel like i only have time to love on my daughter and feed her. everything else is just too overwhelming. i talked to another single mom with adopted kids and have decided that we are going to try the cooking ahead swap thing… such a great idea!

  • Jenni - my husband works at Compassion and knows the full value those letters have to the Compassion children, even if they are a silly picture. Totally love that your family does something so simple, yet so meaningful for another child.

  • Kelly W. - Ashley- This is my first time posting, but I found your blog a few months ago. I love it! You inspire me. This post was JUST what I needed. I have been around the blog world long enough to know that not everyone’s life is probably as perfect as it seems online- mine included! ๐Ÿ™‚ It’s a good life, though! I love the idea of goals, and especially the categories you have for the goals. My to-do list can seem so daunting that I lose track of quality time with my kids. I love the idea of goals, because as everyone knows to-do lists rarely grow shorter (or is that just me?). Thanks for sharing this!!

  • Kristy - I stumbled across your site by accident and got hooked on your diy projects. I love to do crafty things and I’m a sucker for junk hunting, but I need inspiration. And photos. When I checked in today and saw this post, I was encouraged as a mom. I really appreciate your positive attitude that’s also so realistic. I’m so glad you took a risk and shared your goals!

  • Treva Super - I loved reading this today!!! Thank you- very encouraging. Most of all, I love you and am so glad that you are the REAL DEAL. Wishing you were my neighbor….

  • Laurie J - thanks for this, Ashley! As a mom of 4 little ones, too…..you just gave me hope that I can get more done in the week than a little blogging and all the “everday” stuff! Weekly goals is an awesome idea!

  • Becki - Thank you. With 3 kids under 5, I feel like my day is the constant stream of…my gosh, I don’t even know. Thanks for sharing how you set your goals…I’m inspired to do the same.
    And one day we will yearn for the days we stepped on Legos, right?!?!

  • Sarah Madgwick - I’m a list girl myself. I like the deliberate way you include something from each category on your list. I may have to start incorporating that.

  • FullertonRegan - I give myself three goals a day, usually small ones too. I write them with dry erase marker on my bathroom mirror so I never forget. Erasing them makes me feel SO GOOD. ๐Ÿ™‚

    I only make three because I have a full time job, and too often I beat myself up for not doing more and more. Three is enough to be something, and when I’m done I let myself do other things if I have time — but I always make it a point to pat myself on the back when I’m done instead of riding myself to do even more.

  • Libby - Ashley, I always enjoy reading your blog. Your devotion to your family is admirable. And your photography is so inspirational. Always keep it real. People will appreciate that.

    Thanks for sharing about goals. Very good!

  • Susie - Ashley, I look forward to your posts and am inspired and encouraged by your creativity, but now, I just have to tell you you are adorable in so many ways and I love that the Lord leads you to be honest and truthful in your perspective and posts. High five (slaP!)

  • Lu - I love making goals, because it helps me to stay focused and even more important, it helps me not to forget everything. ๐Ÿ™‚ Moreover, it is really fun to cross out something on the list you’ve already done and when having a list, you can always take a look on it and look forward something. ๐Ÿ™‚

  • OrangeFarmhouse - Maike - love this post, it’s so you again, was not sure if I liked the blog after the sponserthing, but this post made me smile and see the real you again, so thank you!

  • Missy - Ashley, thanks so much for posting this!! I am such a list person myself and while I know that, I don’t put that into good use as much as I should. After reading this, I am seriously going to Wal-mart in the morning to buy myself a white board for my closet where I can list my goals for the week. What a great idea to break it down as you have. Thanks again!

  • peta - Bless, Ashley. I love your goals. I am inspired. Thank you for sharing.

  • Cara - Wow, what an awesome post! Your blog is a favorite of mine, and you have inspired me once again! You asked for other ideas, so I thought I’d share this post: http://livintheyehlife.blogspot.com/2010/05/meaningful-monday.html I feel God gave me a good idea for what works for our family, but I definitely love the idea of both daily as well as weekly goals!

  • Sarah - i have to keep a list or my mind will go in 100 different directions! I also try not to make too many goals. i can’t get done everything i used to get done. i work full time, commute an hour each day, and have a 20 month old. i acepted the fact that i just can’t do everything i used to so now i only try to set maybe 2 goals for the weekend in addition to my daily goals. it seems much more achievable, and if i happen to get more done (like this weekend!) than i hoped then i’m even more happy about it.

  • Holly T - Where do you write your goals, in a book, on a chalk board, or just slips of paper. I like my to do lists, but I am loving the weekly goals idea. Just wonering where you keep all your thoughts?

  • Brianne Pitts - I love your attitude. I think you are a great mom. A mom that is trying and isn’t always perfect, but keeps trying nonetheless and is working for the bigger picture: making memories with your kids, and giving them the attention they need. I love that. Your post was very inspiring, as are most of your posts. They just make me want to be a better mom, and enjoy my children and show them they are so important to me by giving them my time. Thanks Ashley. Oh, quick question: How do you make meaningful goals for your younger children. I started implementing this idea into my week (great idea) and was able to come up with fairly good goals for my oldest child but was struggling with a goal for my 2-year-old. Anyway, thanks again!

  • Candice Forte - Ashley, you are an amazing woman, mom, and photographer. I am always in awe, even when you have a human moment. This is a wonderful post! I love the idea of having goals. What a great thing to give a day direction and meaning!!! Thanks!

  • betsy berre - thank you for this post. God used it to reinforce what he was already teaching me and changing in me…a desire to make a home, a desire to nurture and care for my husband as well as my kids, and real love for staying at home and spending time and effort making that home comfortable and welcoming to visitors and to my own family.
    so thank you. God used you and your words to inspire me into further action. i made goals too!

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